Wednesday, January 16, 2008

MARRIAGE

Marriage is a rotten, man-made institution. To live in any institution is not good. Any institution is destructive. Marriage has destroyed almost all possibilities of happiness for million of people – and all for useless things. It survived because we have not been able to devise any better man-women relationship that would provide security for our offsprings.

All marriages are fake – just social and sexual conveniences.

Marriage corrodes the personalities of both husband and wife, and most couples put up with it as best as they can by becoming indifferent, frequently unfaithful, bored and irritable with each other. Few have the energy or the courage to face social censure and call it off. Lack of being economically independent is another reason for women to remain entangled in this bondage. Whatever amount of religious, social or moral camouflage is done, the nature of man remains polygamous. Rarely if ever, does a monogamous union turn out to be an exhilarating and a jointly creative venture of a life time.

There are some good marriages, but practically no delightful ones. (La Rochefoucauld)

Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance (Jane Austen)

The chief cause of unhappiness in married life is that people think that marriage is sex attraction, which takes the form of promises and hopes and happiness – a view supported by public opinion and by literature. But marriage cannot cause happiness. Instead, it is always torture, which man has to pay for satisfying his sex urge. (Tolstoy)

It’s a funny thing that when a man hasn’t anything on earth to worry about, he goes off and gets married. (Robert Frost)

The only charm of marriage is that it makes a life of deception necessary for both parties. (Oscar Wilde)

People marry for a variety of reasons, and with varying results; but to marry for love is to invite inevitable tragedy. (James Branch Cabell)

How many young hearts have reveled the fact that what they had been trained to imagine the highest earthly felicity (marriage) was but the beginning of care, disappointment, and sorrow, and often led to the extremity of mental and physical suffering. (Catharine Esther Beeclear)

Most marriage don’t add two people together. They subtract one from the other (Ian Fleming)

After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin : they just cannot face each other, yet they still stay together (Hemant Joshi)

Marriage is the waste-paper basket of emotions (Sidney Webb)

In marriage, a man becomes slack and selfish, and undergoes a fatty degeneration of his moral being (Robert Louis Stevenson)

All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies are ended by a marriage (Lord George Gordon Byron)

Marriage is the operation by which a woman’s vanity and a man’s egotism are extracted without an anaesthetic. (Helen Rowland)

Marriage, we cannot do without it, and yet we disgrace and vilify the same. As it happens with cages, the birds without are desperate to get in, and those within despair of getting out (Michel de Montaingne)

Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity. (George Bernard Shaw)

Many a marriage hardly differs from prostitution, except being harder to escape from. (Bertrand Russell)

Marriage is the state or condition of a community consisting of a master, a mistress and two slaves, making in all, two. (Ambrose Bierce)

Marriage is one long conversation, chaquered by disputes (Robert Louis Stevenson)

Marriage is not something that happens in heaven, it happens here through the crafty priests. The very ritual of marriage is ridiculous and bogus. Whole of it can be done in the reverse order and nullified.

Marriage is not really a natural state. In nature, coupling is almost always for the sole purpose of mating. Few members of the animal kingdom stay together in couples after mating, except for carrier pigeons and whales. Are you going to stay together with one mate because of carrier pigeons and whales ? (Dan Greenberg & O’Malley)

Why should you get married ? If you love some one, live with some one – it is part of your basic rights. A few basic truths have to be recognized. One is that nobody is born for another. The second is that nobody is here to fulfill your ideas of how he should be. The third is that you are master of your own love, and you can give as much as you want- but you can not demand love from the other person, because nobody is a slave. If these simple facts are understood, then it does not matter you are married or unmarried, you can be together – allowing space to each other, never interfering in each other’s individuality.

When married people don’t get on they can separate, but if they’re not married it’s impossible. It’s a tie that death can sever. (“The Circle” – W. Somerset Maugham)

We sleep in separate rooms, we have dinner apart, we take separate vacations – we’re doing everything we can to keep our marriage together. (Rodney Dangerfield)

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